Relationship

Relationship

So, today we've studied about Relationship.

Let's start off with the relationship stages.

1. Contact

- the fist impression stage.

- perceptual and interactional contact takes place here.

Perceptual : 5 senses are involved.

Interactional : the first point of the contact.

eg. " Helo."

2. Involvement

-when closer and tighter bond is formed.

-testing and intensifying takes place here.

Testing : asking out.

eg. " Do you like orange?"

Intensifying : amount of commitment towards the another one.

eg. dating, gathering

3. Intimacy

-when you get more comfortable and familiar to the others.

-interpersonal commitment and social bonding takes place here.

4.Deterioration

-when bonds weaken off.

5. Repair

-trying to get things right in order to get back to usual.

-interpersonal and intrapersonal repairs take place here.

Interpersonal repairs : you talk about the problems

Intrapersonal repairs : consider changing self

6. Dissolution

-when bond breaks off.

-interpersonal and social separation takes place here.

Interpersonal separation : not meet anymore

Social separation : avoid each other// back to "single" status

There are 6 Relationship Theories :

1. Attraction Theory

- we all attracted to the others according to these few factors.

   * similarity - same taste, beliefs, ideas

   * proximity - people who are close to you

   * reinforcement - people who reinforce your life and personality

   * physical attractiveness and personality : attracted by people's inner & outer beauty

2. Relationship Rules Theory

    * Friendship rules :

       Normal friend, Best friend and Acquaintance have different boundaries to respect.

    * Romantic rules :

       This is for couples and lovers. Different culture have different practice.

    * Family rules :

       Different roles has different rules to follow.

    * Workplace rules :

       Different position has different rules to abide to.

3. Relationship Dialectics Theory

    * Closeness and Openness

    * Autonomy and Connection

    * Novelty and Predictability

4. Social Penetration Theory

- this is used to measure the deepness of the each topic discussed by people in different level of relationship.